MY COACHING STYLE:
MY COACHING STYLE:
I offer coaching free of advice.
It means that I am not going to tell you what you should or should not do, or which option you should choose. On the contrary, I will use my knowledge, skills and resources to minimize forming strong opinions on your options and choices – and thus remain present and focused on you.
I am not going to tell you how the world, love and life work, either. I do not possess that knowledge. I am myself walking my own journey of exploring life, with curiosity, trying to keep my mind and heart as open as I can, continually discovering and learning new things. So instead of pretending that I can answer any existential questions you might have about your life, what I will do is hold space for you, so that you can explore and actively shape your own personal truth and reality.
Offering coaching without advice is a choice that has evolved and settled in me through years of education, training, practice with clients, as well as my own experience of being coached:
I have experienced both options, pure, non-advisory coaching and a combination of coaching and advising, which often seems to be provided under the name of “coaching”, and I have experienced them from different perspectives: as a coach, as a client, and as an observer/supervisor. I have progressively grown towards the belief that coaching is most powerful when it remains completely non-advisory. This does not mean that I cannot see how advising services might come in useful at times! I just consider it more effective to keep the two types of support separate.
I believe in the real potential of every individual to clarify, decide and solve the core part of situations by using her or his own inner wisdom, and I see the primary purpose of coaching to be helping individuals to do that: to re-connect with those parts of our inner wisdom and own potential that we sometimes struggle to connect with when we are distracted and overwhelmed by input and advice from outside. I am of the opinion that mixing coaching and advising within the same service might prevent the client from discovering their hidden inner resources to the full, from clarity about what their actual preference is, and also from addressing potential elements through which they might be standing in their own way, such as limiting beliefs, inner critic, indecisiveness etc. I believe that for me to give you advice would inhibit and distract the process of your self-discovery, and that I can help you get to your own insights and solutions far better and faster if I do not mix the coaching process with interjecting my own opinions and advice.
That is why I choose to do my coaching the non-advisory way and that is also why I choose to coach following the guidelines of the International Coach Federation that also encourages coaching as a strictly non-advisory type of support.
Does my approach speak to you?
Might this kind of coaching be what can help you grow right now?
Then do not hesitate to get in touch with me and we can take it one step further: arrange to talk, after which both of us can assess whether we might be a good match for working together. You will have an opportunity to learn more about my work, and also to experience it, before making any further commitments. Working together only if it brings you results is as important to me as it is to you.